Kary Wayne Stokes - Online Memorial Website

 

Perhaps they are not stars, but rather openings in

Heaven where the love of our lost ones pours through

and shines down upon us to let us know they are happy!

~Hugs & Kisses~

If tears could build a stairway

And memories were a lane,

I would walk right up to heaven

To bring you home again.

No farewell words were spoken.

No time to say good-bye.

You were gone before we knew it,

And only God knows why.

My heart still aches in sadness

And secret tears still flow.

What it ment to lose you,

No one will ever know.

I love and miss you baby brother.

I know oh so well the terrible pain your going through,our precious Brittany was gunned down at her 20th birthday party in front of her family at a barbecue for her and her little sister. Her boyfriend shot her 5 times hitting her in the heart,lungs & liver. She was the most sweetest young woman you'd ever want to meet. She had just finished her 1st year in nursing school and was working at a facility for handicapped people. She was so loving and caring. My heart goes out to you and your family as its so hard to keep going day to day without our precious angels. My heart never has stopped hurting and I doubt if it ever will. Britt was my pride and joy our first granddaughter. There is 7 years difference in her and her sister and 13 between her and her younger sister from my daughter Kim, Britt's mom. So we got very attached to her as she was the only one for so long. God Bless you all.

I found this poem and wanted to share it.  It made me think of Kary.

If I should ever leave you whom I love

To go along the Silent Way, grieve not,

Nor speak of me with tears, but laugh and talk

Of me as if I were beside you, for

Who knows, but that I shall be oftentimes?

I'd come, I'd come, could I but find a way!

But would not tears and grief be barriers?

And when you hear a song I used to sing,

Or see a bird I loved-let not the thought

Of me be sad, for I  am loving you

Just as I always have..You were so good

To me...So many things I wanted still

To do...So many things to say to you

Remember that I did not fear...It was

Just leaving you I could not bear to face

We cannot see Beyond...But this I know

I loved you so...'twas heaven here with you!

Author:  Isla Paschal Richardson

Kary it's you birthday, and I am missing you so much. I wish that your killers could have been caught. But I know one day they will be. But today it does not help the pain. I hope that you found  what you were searching for, I love and miss you .

Regret is the feeling that lingers in my heart and mind as I write this tonight. I think back at the many times that I wasn't the Aunt I should have been. Maybe I could have prayed more for him. I always thought there was plenty of time. So many lost opportunities to talk to him or write him a letter letting him know I cared about him. We should be concerned about our loved ones now, today because we don't know what tomorrow holds.

I wish I could understand why this has happened to our family. It is like a horrible dream.  I never want to sit by and not pray like I should for my family members again. The sad thing is this knowledge has come through a great price. I am broken hearted and only think of the many opportunities I missed in praying more for Kary or just letting him know I cared and loved him. I will never feel I done enough. My regrets as a Christian and aunt will be a pain in my heart for a long time.

I get on here sometimes and read the candles that have been lit. It hurts to see the heart wrenching messages sent.  I read them and cry when I think of the great pain you must be experiencing and wish I could do something to make it better. I can't imagine the hurt in the hearts of those that were really  close to him. I feel so helpless. I want to be able to say something that will help. Any feeble attempts on my part I know would never even begin to touch the deep hurt you are feeling.

It will soon be a year since we lost Kary and God's special grace will be needed. He is there for any of us that will reach out and receive the grace to help us make it through this time. God will be there to touch us. It is in times like these that his presence is felt even stronger. If you are in so much pain you can't do anything but cry, it is enough for God.  He is so touched and moved by his childrens tears.  He is only a cry away.

 

god looked around his garden
and found an empty space
then looked upon the earth
and saw your happy face
he put his arms around you
and lifted you to rest
gods garden must be beautiful
he only takes the best

 

I thought of you with love today
but that is nothing new
I thought about you yesterday
and days before that too
I think of you in silence
I often speak your name
all I have are memories
and your pictures in a frame
your memory is my keepsake
with which I'll never part
I love you so much Kary
I have you in my heart

when i come to theend of my journey

and i travel my last weary mile

just forget if you can,that i ever frowned

and remember only the smile.

forget unkind words i have spoken;

remember some good i have done.

forget that i ever had heartache

and remember i've had loads of fun.

forget that i've stumbled and blundered

and sometimes fell,please remember the good not the bad.

I'm so sorry for your loss.  Be at peace knowing that he is with you everyday in love and spirit.  My heart goes out to you and your family. May God Bless you all.
Belinda Hinton and family

SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSE. HE WAS MY LOSE TOO. FROM CHILD HOOD HE PROTECTED ME AND LOVED ME. I WAS SO BLESSED TO HAVE HIM THERE FOR ME. BE STRONG FOR ONE DAY WE WILL ALL BE UNITED. I WILL GET TO HEAR HIM LAUGH AGAIN ONE DAY. MY PRAYERS ARE WITH YOU GUYS.

Me, being married to Kary's brother is a wonderful gift that god has given to me.

    I  have been in this family for nearly 20 years, so therefore i know Kary  well enough to share my feelings about this deep pain I feel for everyone in this family,(including myself).  I have watched and witnessed all the pain Toby is going through because he really did love Kary.  He wishes things could've been different between them at times.       But then he smiles when he remembers the good ones they had together.  He never stopped loving him........And he never will.

  Then I see his sister,  cry all the time about him not being here.  She carries all of her pictures of him along with her everywhere she goes.  She says to me,  My brother is right here "cindy" he will never leave my side.  Its very sad to me.  My dear mother in- law,  how she has suffered.  She misses him and she wants her son back.  It's all so sad but true.  

 Everyone in this family is in deep pain.  And there is nothing that will make it easier without Kary.  Only the love we all have to offer one another during this sadened time in all of our lives. 

  I am so sorry to all of you.  I wish things were not the way they are,  I know its hard on each of you.  But to my husband, I know you better then anyone,  It will be okay you'll see your brother in heaven,  I honestly know that.

And Dub,  I am sorry for you also.  I know your having a difficult time as  well.  Thank heavens for your loving wife Heather to hold you up along the way.  I LOVE YOU ALL!!!

I did not know Kary, but I wanted to let the family know how sorry I am.  I'm Tobys' Mother in law, and I know he is hurting, as I know each of you are.  Joyce, I especially want to let you know how sorry I am.  I can't imagine going through this myself.  May God bless you, and keep you close to Him.

Phyllis

I too was a soul tossed here and there, not knowing why i was doing the things i did. But God knows all in our lives, He knows the loniness, the bitterness, the tears, the rages, the love that we would give to others, but yet even though we got love back, we always seemed to think it was not enough. But thats when God puts His arms around us, and He says come here my child....I will never leave you, nor make you feel unloved. I understand and know what you are feeling, I know all the pain that you felt in your heart, and the misunderstandings that you felt when you thought nobody cared. But I was there all along. You see my child I love you unconditionally......"This is the love of my Father" and Kary you were just like me always misunderstood.....All you ever wanted was more love, we always got love we just needed more.

I'm flying with angels in the sky

I look down and start to cry

all I see are frowning faces

because I went to happy places

I'm sorry I left without saying goodbye

but if you need me look up in the sky

I'm here with poppy and uncle Donnie to

were all looking down smiling at you

please remember I love you all

I'll see ya in heaven when your called

I am so sorry for your tragic loss.. one i know well myslef .. my grandson and my father both in the last 24 mo's ..my little one only 10..may the love  of Jesus envelope your lives  & give you strength through the holidays & all the long days & nights to come ..longing for Jesus even more now than ever ..we will meet again ..

Many Blessings to your family